Find The Fullness of Your Cup
Find The Fullness of Your Cup
Is your cup often empty, or do you feel full to the brim? Most likely it goes in waves, where some periods are longer than others. Those times when we feel like we are bone dry and exhausted and that nothing seems to change. And then it does. All of a sudden we are being filled up, more and more until we can’t really grasp how all of this goodness is happening to us, as if we are anticipating and expecting it to change. And then it does.
Wave upon wave of change, of feeling full, and of feeling empty. And so is there a way for us to regulate this, to feel the fullness of our cup on a more consistent basis?
Well, to begin with, we must recognize the ways that we feel full and the ways that we feel empty. You can write down a list of both sides just to get more awareness and clarity around it. Maybe you will also find some things you didn’t even realize how it affects you.
Once you have your list, let’s focus on the empty cup for now. Notice how much - or little - is needed for these things to get you into a state of feeling empty. In other terms, what drains us is another way to express it.
What are these things that are draining you? Is it at your work? Or is it a person? Is it an overwhelming feeling of having a lot of things on your plate that just seemingly never ends? Once you have an idea, look at your level of control of it. Is it in your control to change it? What would it take? Or is it completely out of your control, and what would it still take to change within you to make it different?
For example, if it’s a person, maybe it’s someone who you feel drained around if they don’t stop talking about themselves, or they are rude or neglectful of you, or maybe they have a massive crush on you and won’t leave you alone? Would there be a way for you to express this in a kind and compassionate way? Or is the way to just step back from them entirely to find some peace of mind? Most often the power is within our own hands to make something happen.
What if it is those overwhelming tasks that are piled up? Would it be a difficult thing to ask for help? To recognize your own vulnerability around it, and thus be strong and brave to say “this is quite overwhelming for me and I feel drained, I would love to receive some help.” You might be surprised what kind of support you will get and how it would feel when the pile becomes smaller.
I believe that each situation is unique and requires some various angles and approaches to make it change, but if it helps you to fill up your cup, isn’t it worth it?
Now let’s focus on parts that brings us fullness, and how we can keep ourselves there for longer periods of time.
If the things on your list makes you smile, feel elated, and at peace, then these are definitely the right things to bring you fullness to your cup. If you love what you do, you know that thing that makes you love going to bed on a Sunday evening because you know what you have to wake up to. Or is it a person that brings you joy, adventure, huge smiles, and constant surprises? Maybe it’s that forest on the outskirts of where you live, where you can go and be entirely at peace with your thoughts. Perhaps it’s as simple as reading a book for a few hours?
Whatever fills you up - do more of that! And don’t get discouraged if it takes some time to cultivate. Once again, there are things and situations that you are more in control of than others, let yourself focus on what you can change and enhance, and let the things you can’t change with time. Or maybe the thing that changes is you.
So, check on your list again and notice what’s different. Does it feel different now? Do you have more clarity? More of a dedicated path to being less drained and more fulfilled? With this awareness, you can begin to take small steps to feel more balanced, to feel more at peace with all the good things you cultivate and at ease with the things that potentially drains you.
If it’s draining, how can you remove it or steer away from it to find peace? If it’s filling you up, how can you invite more of it? This is the essence to finding fullness of your cup. It might take some time, it might be difficult here and there, but every small step will lead to more of what you want and need, and less of what you don’t.
If any of this resonates with you, I’d love to hear from you and your experience, and most likely you have some own personal insight to finding fullness of your own cup. Please reach out to me if you’d like to share!
From fullness,
Chris Fox
About the Author
Chris Fox is a mobility specialist and movement coach focusing on joint health, body awareness, and how to reduce pain with active bodywork. With the Fox Method, he helps people to get a stronger connection to their body, by isolating joint awareness, activating body control, and integrating healthier movement habits.
If you want to work on your mobility and stability, increase more body awareness and reduce pain to feel more light and alive, you can contact Chris for a session: thisischrisfox@gmail.com
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